I have been keeping a bit mum about this the past few months, but some big things have been happening behind the scenes.
In October, I took one of the biggest risks of my life. I quit a great full time job with a company that I love to pursue something that had been a long term dream of mine. A dream that I had been working tirelessly evenings and weekends to get off the ground.
Well, this is embarrassingly long overdue! However, I was recently promoted at my job and have been working on building a new department at work so that has been my top priority!
If you follow along on my Instagramand snapchat (username: madame_ostrich), you’ll know that I was in Savannah, Georgia for Belle’s bachelorette weekend the beginning of May! It’s crazy that Belle’s wedding is only a week and a half away!
I wanted to share today some beautiful photos my dear friend Audrey Froggatt took of the Women’s March on NYC. Although I was unable to attend due to a prior commitment, I have been so inspired by the stories and photos posted all over social media.
The real beauty of the event was that so many different causes inspired women to march, drawing in women from all walks of life. Below is a meditation Audrey wrote reflecting her own experience. It’s simple, yet poignant and powerful and I hope it inspires you.
Last night Gotham Business Network held their first annual Cocktail Party & Fashion Fundraiser at Maserati of Manhattan. The event featured a fashion show, local designer showcases, and a silent auction supporting Dress for Success®, a non profit organization that provides disadvantaged women with professional attire, and the career development tools necessary to become self sufficient.
Do you remember those Victoria’s Secret ads that asked, “What is Sexy?”
VS might not be the best people to ask since their brand offers a very narrow depiction of what constitutes “sexy,” but they pose a good question nonetheless.
The interesting truth behind “What is Sexy?” is that there’s no “right” or “wrong” answer. Just look at instagram and you’ll see a lot of different ideas of what it means to be “#hot” (since they rather inconveniently won’t let you use #sexy.)
For some “sexy” may mean six pack abs, quick wit, silky hair, glasses, or maybe even a special talent. In this sense, sexiness is subjective—It can’t really be commodified since it’s a concept rather than a product.
The answer is as personal as an individual’s experiences, upbringing and cultural conditioning. I mean, could you imagine if we all found the exact same thing attractive? Humanity would cease to exist.
With Valentine’s Day coming up there’s not only a large focus on “romance,” but also self-appreciation. Marketers push product aimed to customers feel beautiful such as Valentine’s Day themed lingerie sets, lipsticks, and perfumes.
Arguably, Valentine’s Day has become equally as much about indulging in what makes you feel beautiful as it is celebrating amorous love.
Taking this into consideration, it might be better to reword “What is Sexy?” into the following question, “What makes you feel the most confident and attractive?”
The following are real comments left on an instagram from a popular swimwear & lingerie model:
“Perfect Body (crying emoji)” “Why’re you so skinny??” “i want that thigh gap! cute!” “Hmm, not enough abs” “Craving to look like you (emoji with hearts as eyes) workout!!” “God I’m sick of perfect chicks :(“ “my thinspo but not achievable lol”
Comments like these are everywhere— just type in the name of any popular supermodel and you’ll see a bevy of instagrammers eager to voice their opinion on Chrissie Teigan’s facial structure, Candice Swanpoel thigh gap, or the size of Kate Upton’s chest.
Sure, we used to flip through magazines and make statements about our favorite celebrities— who they’re dating, how great or terrible they look post break up, making assumptions based off of media claims surrounding said break up.
However, now anyone with a social media account can say whatever they want about a celebrity in a much more public forum. The liminal distance separating the public image of a person from who they really are is being replaced by the ability to feel like we have a glimpse of people’s “real lives” through instagram and twitter.
Maybe it’s because there’s a false sense of anonymity on the internet— knowing one can say whatever they want without the repercussion of having to actually own up to any kind of emotional damage caused by their statements—that makes us desensitized to the fact that the people we are talking about are actually real people.